The energy shift from worry to support

Somehow we have come to think of ‘worrying’ as a sign of our love and support for others – ‘I’m so worried about them… I’m so worried that…’ – we have come to expect this type of language and way as a sign of ‘really’ feeling for, having empathy, love etc….

But when you think about it what does the worry do?

When you worry about others you transfer their difficulty onto you and it becomes your own difficulty -it is now about you!

When it is now about you – what happens to you? You may become stressed, anxious, feeling vulnerable and overall unable to fully support the actual person in need.

Think about what support is to you and what is needed or desired at a time when facing ‘pain’? What does it look like, sound like, feel like?

Answering these questions helped me recognise what was important and from this I have worked to bring this to others; perspective, good will, hope, compassion, an intention to help and be useful as well as bring qualities of tolerance, patience and love and understanding.

When my husband hurt his back last week I realised when I left him to go to work, I had entered into the ‘worry cycle’ with a ‘head state’ of future ‘what if’ stories with an empathy for his pain that was becoming my pain and an energy projection that in no way offered hope for healing or strength to cope.

At the point of realising the focus of my attention, I mindfully shifted my ‘concern’ to an energy of purposeful exploration of what I could do for him and how I could project my thoughts for strength and energy to heal and recover.

It led me to explore some natural therapies for muscle spasms and put steps in place to help him for the day.

I realised we all have our own time for pain; physical, emotional, psychological or other. I realised I once had my time of pain and it was only me who could endure the physicality of that.

And just as I moved through mine, it will be his turn to move through his.

This allowing brought a sense of peace knowing that my part is not in matching the discomfort of his pain, but in the manner of the support I give during these times.

The situation began to feel a lot lighter when I shifted away from the dread, fear, worry that was initially so easy to fall victim to and move to a quality support and love I felt empowered by.

So perhaps it may be useful to identify when concern for others is presenting as a worry state and energy zapping – then doing some ‘inner work’ to shift and invest energy in a more worthy direction.

Try it out – notice the impact on the experience – it may be another way to help bring quality to your life and to the life of those you care for…

Just a thought,

Tricia