Decisions

Decisions are such a personal thing – we all have our own unique way of making them!

The way we go about decisions often reflects information about our self, our life and world view.

The fact we choose to make decisions in the first place, shows a personal desire to influence and create our own life.  

Think about times when you felt you had no choice! You could have felt stuck and found yourself saying ‘I can’t see any other way around this situation!’ Or maybe have felt decisions made by other people were your only choice. Then somehow a challenge to this view emerged.

So while making decisions is personally empowering they tend to be difficult to get to.  

In making a decision we each draw from and value different things that both help and hinder us along the way. We may

• access large amounts of information, statistics or observe precedence or have faith in logic or material evidence
• allow time to pass to help generate some clarity or test the situation and possible consequences
• draw from own inner feelings, instincts and intuition because of the powerful pull from such mechanisms
• use criteria that is important to us such as – cause least pain, best for self, best for family, best for society, best for mankind, the desire of a partner, least daily disruption, best financially or whatever that may be.

We may find ourselves in the midst of many of these approaches which make sense why decisions feel so difficult to make.  

I have come to see that no matter how our final decisions emerge – our outcome suggests it was the best fit option for that moment.  The one that stood out to meet the combination of personal strengths, values, timing, instincts and wisdom – One too difficult to generate a formula…

Whatever action or inaction, discomfort or pain that may have resulted it was the most satisfying of all possibilities at that time.  

I recently made an important decision (that drew from many of these areas but most importantly for me, it ‘felt right’) then consciously chose to fully commit without moving into ‘old territory’ where regret or doubt could be activated. It led to an acceptance and energy that positively influenced my attitude and mindset.

Previously I was often afflicted by the ‘I can’t make a decision’ state (that others often suggested was part of my stereotypical Libran trait) where decisions seemed torturous and left me going over and over questioning, often doubting and seeking better or other possibilities.

This new found faith and acceptance for the chosen path, has given me the space to get on with living.

Enhanced clarity has been another benefit from engaging this frame of mind for with clarity, new ways of seeing subsequent quality actions and decisions have been possible.

I would describe it as a fluid cycle…. of being open to what is presenting so quality next layer decisions can be made along the life path – a path where nothing remains permanent.

So …if you can take a moment to marvel at this peeling process of life itself – where each moment’s decision evolves from the previous – where an endless amount of future possibilities from remnants of the past are in place to add something special to your life.

Well, I’m now off to celebrate the consequences of my daughter and her fiancés past decision – a wedding!

Hope you have the opportunity this fortnight to enjoy some consequences of your own quality decisions… Tricia